Life and its style

  Two of the most important pillars in my life are unconditional love and genuine connection. I feel so strongly that these values are part of my purpose in life, to be and give love to such extreme depths, to show others that there is always more love to be shared and expressed, to keep my heart open to those I meet, no matter how briefly and be an example for others to know that being kind and building connection is a true gift that deeply enriches lives Love in its purest form. That is how I view both unconditional love and genuine connection. To be open, honest and vulnerable with the person standing in front of me, without judgement or ulterior motive. I’ve had people ask me over the years how I can stay so open and trusting with new people after having others treat me poorly in the past and my honest answer to that is realizing that one person’s actions shouldn’t cause me to be closed off towards another. I give each individual person the opportunity to be themselves and to s...

 Eric Greitens says that there are three primary forms of happiness;  The happiness of pleasure, The happiness of grace, and The happiness of excellence.  He compares them to the primary colors, the basis for the entire spectrum. The happiness of Pleasure is largely sensory, it's a good meal when you are hungry, the smell of the air after it rains, waking up warm, physical touches basically any pleasure you are getting through your sensory organ. The happiness of Grace is gratitude, spirituality, prayer, religion, or anything that includes inner joyous state, it's taking inventory of what you do have. It is when you speak to something greater than yourself, expressing humility then there is The happiness of  Excellence, the kind of happiness that comes from the pursuit of something great, not the moment you arrive at your desired destination, but the process of falling in love with the path you have taken. It is meaningful work. It is flow. It is the purpose that sea...

 it's interesting to think about how we make people who used to be everything into nothing again. and how we learn to forget. how we force forgetting. the dynamics afterward always tell you more about what the relationship did- grief is a faster teacher than joy- but what happens when you cycle out to be strangers again? actually, you never stop knowing someone in that way, maybe there is no choice but to accept and to make them someone different in your mind when your lives revolve around someone it is not possible to forget the places you went and the things you said, the touch, the glaze, the songs you listened, the memories you created, the pictures you took, the feelings you felt, the promises you made, the food you ate, the jokes you cracked and many more. do we really forget our loved one's birthday, or all our first times, intimate or not? are the things you did and promises you made ever really neutralized? do they become void now as you are not in contact or do you de...

  Trees need their protective bark to enable the delicate process of growth and renewal to unfold without threat. Likewise, we must have our boundaries and defenses so that the more vulnerable parts of ourselves can safely heal and unfold. But our growth also depends upon our ability to soften, loosen, and discard boundaries and defenses that we no longer need. It is often the case in life that structures we put in place to help us grow eventually become constricting . ~ Madisyn Taylor, take a few seconds to imbibe this thought, In today's world, hard, motivation is used as a prime example and is woven into many words intended to be positive, such as “strong” or “tough.” We want to be “strong” and “tough,” to be able to handle all of life’s trials and tribulations without cracking.  However, these words often morph into an image of hardness. When we are strong, we hunker down, grit our teeth, and bear it. When we are tough, we “power through” the bad times.  The short-ter...

 I don't know whether I'm alone in thinking that after I turned 21, the people in my life would always be the people in my life. I was no longer able to care about little disputes and passive-aggression. You just reach a point where you say to yourself, "It's not even worth bothering" and you feel like you have better things like a career to focus on. But to what many people think (which includes me), growing older didn't make it any different than I lost certain people —it just altered how it happened and how I felt about it. It's actually the same thing, done a different way with a different mindset. It seems to me that losing people is more about fading away or giving up than it is about arguments, battles, or confrontations these days. Perhaps when someone does something, you just decide that you don't really want to spend out with them if that's the kind of person they are. It's more similar to a "mutual separation" or "amic...

  “ The illiterate of the future are not those who can’t read or write but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn. ” Alvin Toffler Learning something, if you’re actually interested in it, is pretty much always something enjoyable. Learning some things takes longer than others. Unlearning, however, is something quite different. You might make a mistake for thinking it means knowledge just disappearing from your memory. But it’s not that. Unlearning is challenging and deconstructing things that are embedded in your way of thinking, acting and reacting. It means moving on from the previous ideas, beliefs, assumptions, etc., should be completely removed for the new one to flourish. They cannot overlap, just as one must remove all of the old roots before planting new flowers. The Learn, Unlearn and Relearn Cycle They talk about unlearning in psychology in terms of letting go of unhelpful beliefs and negative behaviours. The neuro educators might call it  rewiring , but everyo...