How the people we once loved become strangers again.

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 it's interesting to think about how we make people who used to be everything into nothing again. and how we learn to forget. how we force forgetting. the dynamics afterward always tell you more about what the relationship did- grief is a faster teacher than joy- but what happens when you cycle out to be strangers again?

actually, you never stop knowing someone in that way, maybe there is no choice but to accept and to make them someone different in your mind when your lives revolve around someone it is not possible to forget the places you went and the things you said, the touch, the glaze, the songs you listened, the memories you created, the pictures you took, the feelings you felt, the promises you made, the food you ate, the jokes you cracked and many more.

do we really forget our loved one's birthday, or all our first times, intimate or not? are the things you did and promises you made ever really neutralized? do they become void now as you are not in contact or do you decidedly ignore them because there is simply no choice? the mind the brain tells you to go on and forces your heart to follow, I guess.

I feel this is how we meet new people because, maybe we are all the center of our own little universe, and sometimes they overlap with other people and that small bit of intersection leaves some part of it, it creates a change in us, every person we meet in life leaves some impact on us. that collision can break us, make us, wreck us, shift us, change us, depress us, uplift us it is upon us how we take it your emotional level, spiritual level decide it for you.

it's an inevitable process, that you are left knowing new things about yourself, life, love, and emotions and what they can do, and the pain, the void, the sadness, the emptiness, the fear, the insecurities, the space it can create that as well. 

we all start as strangers, the choices we make in terms of love are usually ones that decide how long we are going to stay and when exactly we are going to turn into 'strangers' again if things don't work out. i feel we are all just waiting for another person to meet to change what we can not ourselves, to give the love, care, and support we can't do for ourselves it's interesting how we try again with whatever is left in us for that new person to calm the storm, we start seeing the stars differently now, our life changes a little bit, and we do not even realize all that. 

we all start as strangers, but we forget that we rarely choose who ends up as a stranger too, some strangers turn out to be permanent people of your life and that risk and journey is worth all your leftover emotions and efforts.

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Comments

  1. shishirMay 10, 2024 at 3:39 PM

    True perspective

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  2. TaxakMay 12, 2024 at 12:45 AM

    Well, we never forget whom we loved! Even we never stop loving them despite having no contact :)

    ReplyDelete

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