Being soft is powerful

 Trees need their protective bark to enable the delicate process of growth and renewal to unfold without threat. Likewise, we must have our boundaries and defenses so that the more vulnerable parts of ourselves can safely heal and unfold. But our growth also depends upon our ability to soften, loosen, and discard boundaries and defenses that we no longer need. It is often the case in life that structures we put in place to help us grow eventually become constricting. ~ Madisyn Taylor,

take a few seconds to imbibe this thought,

In today's world, hard, motivation is used as a prime example and is woven into many words intended to be positive, such as “strong” or “tough.” We want to be “strong” and “tough,” to be able to handle all of life’s trials and tribulations without cracking. However, these words often morph into an image of hardness. When we are strong, we hunker down, grit our teeth, and bear it. When we are tough, we “power through” the bad times. The short-term result is often satisfying. The hard person bounces back quickly from a failed relationship an illness or losing a long-term job. The trouble, however, is often found beneath the surface and in the long term.

 What happens when someone spends a lifetime hunkering down and powering through? they start feeling numb, they lose their compassion, humanity, and emotions, they feel lost, and alone, and often become hollow from the inside, they might become rich and have all the worldly pleasure but a sense of being a complete human will be lost. only love can rescue them.

To use a cliché, the tree that doesn’t bend, breaks. A hard tree can endure a lot, but when a strong wind blows, it cracks and falls over. Let’s look at a bunch of images to see this more clearly.

Sometimes you are left with no option but to act all hard, which is good because it does produce results, but it also builds ego, anger, and domination, it fills you with pride, fear, and loneliness, and before you even realize a lot of emotional damage has already been done to you so it is better that by taking, breaks to realize and reflect on life and act upon it is important for your mental peace and the relations you have in life, being active while being with someone is better than carrying the guilt about it and regretting it later because you never know how much time you have, to feel joy and intimacy, you need to allow yourself the vulnerability that will also inevitably lead at times to pain. 

Bravely learn to relax with life and see what happens, and you will make decisions with more wisdom and take actions with more power than if you were fighting.

Today I am trying to leave you with this thought, when you’re in a moment in which your instincts are telling you to be hard, before you act at least take a moment to consider what being soft would look like. What would the soft option be, what could result, and who might you become? try breaking some old patterns in life it might help in your relations with yourself and people dear to you, its better to take action than to feel guilt.

Thank you for reading, hope you got some new perspective.