Trusting ourselves.

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 At the core of a lot of our difficulties is a lack of trust- especially a lack of trust in ourselves. 

Think about these common difficulties that most of us face:

  • What to focus on: we don't trust our hearts to choose what we would like to work on right now.
  • Indecision: we get stuck on indecision because we don't trust ourselves to choose what we really want, and we don't trust ourselves to land on our feet if things turn out differently than we had hoped.
  • Procrastination\ Resistance: We feel resistance to a difficult task and then avoid it, resulting in procrastination, because we don't trust ourselves to be with the discomfort or trust ourselves to handle whatever comes after doing the task (handle criticism, judgment, or any other potential consequences)
  • Finding focus: often when we try to focus on something we feel pulled away in a thousand directions by things we need to take care of because we don't trust ourselves to take care of those things later.
if you don't face any of these problems- congratulations! you are lucky and saving a lot of time and energy. You probably have a ton of trust. But most of us struggle with this daily basis which means there is an incredible opportunity to practice trust.

                                                            Ways to Practice

Every difficulty is an opportunity to practice trust.

When you face any of the difficulties listed above or any other struggle these are amazing opportunities to practice trust. At any moment, we can practice trust or non-trust. We are constantly making this choice.

What is the practice of trust?

It is trusting that our heart wants what it wants, and that is OK to listen to that. It is a practice of letting go of needing things to go a certain way. Of needing to be in safety or comfort. 
It is trusting that we can handle whatever comes up.
It is trusting that we can be with whatever emotions come up for us.
It is trusting that others can have their emotions, and be how they are and we can be with that as well.

So how can we practice trust at the moment?

  • when you notice an opportunity to practice any of the difficulties listed above, for example - Pause and Think and Trust.
  • Take a breath. Become Present.
  • Feel your heart- what does it want? Can you trust what it wants?
  • Can you trust yourself to navigate whatever uncertainty that comes up?
  • Can you trust yourself to be with your emotions? To be with the emotions of others?
You might answer "NO" to some of these which is perfectly OK! allow yourself to be a No for now, if the No is very strong but you might consider what it would be like if you did trust. what would you do if you trusted yourself? How would you view the situation differently? Could you give that a try?

This takes practice. You will gain trust if you take action despite a shaky trust, and learn that you will land on your feet or deal with falling on your face. You will learn to trust in yourself to be with whatever shows up, including difficult emotions in yourself or others. You will start more if you act with trust. That means a small leap of faith to start with.

If you start to trust something powerful shifts. You start to make decisions more easily, and you can go through your day with more focus and feel more relaxed. Things that happen are not such a big deal, not so stressful. You start to flow.

Could you trust yourself to practice trust?

Thank you for reading, I come up with weekly blogs every Saturday!

                                                  



Comments

  1. shishirDecember 2, 2022 at 5:10 PM

    Believe yourself n trust is the key to success

    Very good 👍

    ReplyDelete
  2. TaxakDecember 4, 2022 at 6:40 AM

    Trust is everything 💯 waiting for the next week♥️

    ReplyDelete

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