Crying is not a sign of weakness.

We all cried when we were babies. But now that we're adults, many of us often try to hold back our tears in the belief that crying - particularly at work or in public - is seen as a sign of weakness, or as something to be ashamed of. But is it? Crying is the body’s way to let go of heaviness and reduce emotional stress but also process it. Think of emotions as an invisible force moving through the body. People tend to think that just because they cannot see or feel their feelings when they refuse to feel them, they simply go away. Unfortunately, that just isn’t true…

Crying is a sign of strength because it is a demonstration of a completely comfortable relationship with the self. Choosing to cry and feel is a choice in the interest of one’s emotional health. Choosing to cry is also choosing not to care about the opinions of others. Crying also helps set an example for others. Especially in recovery when peers are struggling to connect with, articulate, and express their own emotions, seeing someone freely express themselves is inspiring. Not only will they learn from the act of crying, but they will see the transformation that takes place from working through emotions.

Sadly, society has stigmatized the expression of sadness. When somebody cries the common reaction is to make the crying stop. Unknowingly, when someone responds to tears with “Ssssh don’t cry” they’re actually saying, “Stop expressing your emotion through crying, it’s making me uncomfortable,” It’s a tough situation trying to feel! Coincidentally, it is not the comfort, tears, or sympathy of another person which alleviates the emotion behind crying. High percentages of people feel a sense of relief after crying. Remember to cry, to feel, and to just let it all out. If you are able to express your sad emotions openly how will you be able to express your happy emotions openly?

It is said that the person who is able to cry and own to it is:-

• invite others to not run from their emotions, help them to face their emotions too.
• don't care about societal expectations and don't believe in the stereotypical definition of being strong and don't care about gender roles.
• are more empath, and know the value of other people crying and can comfort them too with the right words and gestures.
• they are not afraid of their emotions and are able to embrace and express themselves completely.

People who are able to cry are the people who hurt less because they know how it feels. It’s not entirely clear what changed our attitudes toward men crying. But for a while, stoicism was and arguably still is seen as important to masculinity, while crying and emotional vulnerability are associated with femininity. More recently, with the beginning of fourth-wave feminism and increasing discourse around toxic masculinity and mental health stigma, many people are starting to believe that it should be acceptable for men to cry. Different people express themselves differently some people due to life experience learn to be strong and accept acting tough so that they can support others but in the meantime, they lose their gentleness and sometimes unintentionally end up hurting others. Remember when you were kidding your cry was your language of expression.

Crying should be neutral not gender biased

This blog is about breaking the traditional concept of crying and considering it as a sign of weakness and judging people, it is high time to accept the expression of emotions as normal for all genders, emotions are beautiful it makes you more human.

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