The only constant is Change.

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We all know the common phrase, “The only constant is change.” When our lives change in a way that seems positive, like getting a great new job, it’s natural to conjure up gratitude. Inevitably, life throws a curveball, and without warning, the entire landscape of our lives can change. An unexpected and unwanted change may be especially unsettling, as the unpredictability removes illusions of control. It’s far more difficult to feel blessed and grateful during an unwanted relationship, career change, death, or even some larger upending of the life we thought we had.

The period of clinging to the past and resisting change is most likely where most of our discomfort and suffering occurs.

Keep in mind that grief is a necessary part of the process. We can grieve a change while also accepting it. No one wants to suffer. Most of us want to find genuine, lasting happiness.


What is transitional stress? What is transitional anxiety?

It's easy to talk about transitions, like a cocoon becoming a butterfly, a beautiful analogy it is. However, times of transition may simultaneously include anxiety, grief, and joy which is a lot to feel at once. The cocoon-to-butterfly process is not smooth or simple. To fly the butterfly has to break out of its cocoon.  That's a lot of tearing! usually, there is grief in saying goodbyes to whatever and whomever you are leaving behind even if you are glad. This is the state everyone faces before some big life-changing event like Marriage, career, moving, shifting from one place to another, presentation surgery, and many more we know the long-term benefit and reasons for the event but temporarily we get overwhelmed.

While life transition will be different for every individual it inevitably brings suffering because we no longer know what is next, most of us enjoy knowing what is to come. We tend to grasp the idea of certainty. When the future is unknown, we may experience increased anxiety and stress levels. 

The truth of it is that we don't have control of the life we so dearly want. No matter how hard we try. In these times of change, we can't even pretend we have that control and should not. How frightening! scary image of what might happen can pop up.

Changes are scary because it makes us feel that we have lost control of our territory but if you are with the right people and in the right state of mind you can bear those changes. Things at the start look difficult and blurry but as we keep moving life finds its way. So, the only solution to face the constant change is to accept things and keep on moving and enjoy the journey in between and allow life to happen don't miss out on things that are happening in present.

Hoped you like today's topic as this is the most common reality of life and always will be.

Thank you for reading, I come up with weekly blogs every Saturday!
  
                              



Comments

  1. TaxakNovember 18, 2022 at 8:51 PM

    Indeed, changes are scary but there is nothing permanent except change💯 You write damn so well❤️ waiting for the next week 🤌

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  2. shishirNovember 19, 2022 at 10:41 PM

    It's true and change must be accepted

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