Love is all it takes.

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Since ancient times, philosophers, poets, authors, and scientists have debated the meaning of love, and various individuals and organizations have frequently engaged in conflict over this issue. Although the majority of people concur that love means intense devotion, there are many misunderstandings over its exact definition, and "I love you" may signify many different things to different people.

Some possible definitions of love which is followed are:-

  • A willingness to prioritize another’s well-being or happiness above your own.
  • Extreme feelings of attachment, affection, and need.
  • Dramatic, sudden feelings of attraction and respect.
  • A choice to commit to helping, respecting, and caring for another, such as in marriage or when having a child.
  • A fleeting emotion of care, respect, affection, commitment, trust, a sense of belongingness, and friendship.  
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    and many more, these are just some outcomes of love some conditions we put on 

    Whereas in reality, love is way simpler than this. It is a state within you "Love is not something you do, Love is something you are" if we will consider love as an action to take then the whole concept of love will become so limited that it will be treated as some work to do, but in reality, you can become love and having this mechanism in you your area of love will grow you will find that all the negative emotions- Ego, Anger, Envy, Lust, Selfishness, etc. from your life are gone. 

    We often confuse love with romanticism, but that is just one form of affection one of the strongest relationships to have, you can make your love life richer by expressing love to everyone- your parents, friends, neighbors, colleagues, siblings, teachers, pets, strangers your equation, expression with every relation changes as per your priorities and authority but the basic element remains the same.
     
    In the book of Gary Chapman, people have 5 love languages,
    1. Words of Affirmation- using your words to express your emotions.
    2. Gifts-  gifting another person things they like and want.
    3. Quality time-  spending time together doing the things that are mutually liked.
    4. Acts of service-  acting more and speaking less about it.
    5. Physical touch- hugs, any physical gesture backed by care.
    I guess it is very important to understand your love language and another's love language too, to express yourself completely and understand them completely otherwise the communication will break and you might end up hurting or losing people. We always want people to understand us and never question ourselves with our way and become very proud and comfortable with it whereas we should try daily to make some effort for the persons who matter. Never take them for granted. We get so busy loving ourselves that we end up forgetting about other people not everyone is as strong and secure in themselves they might need your push and support for them you can adapt a few new gestures.

    Coming back to Love, it is the most powerful positive happy feeling and when you are truly in love with someone all the conditions seem very little and unnecessary it is we who have narrowed down this feeling and restricted it with all the societal terms but in general, it is the only feeling we want.

    Nowadays most mental illnesses are caused because of the deprivation of this emotion and people are searching for it in any possible way mostly in a morally wrong way. But loving does not mean you have to do everything for everyone it is important to have healthy boundaries because you have to protect yourself too. 

    Let's just try to make a little change daily and make it a habit to take care of things. In short, grow love in you for you and for others associated with you in any way.

    Thank you for reading, I come up with weekly blogs every Saturday!
                                             
                                                    


    Comments

    1. TaxakNovember 11, 2022 at 8:23 PM

      Pyaar toh zaruri hai 🤭💕 also thank you for writing on this, too💯 waiting for the next week

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    2. shishirNovember 11, 2022 at 9:45 PM

      Touchy

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