Channelize your negative emotions.

We often find ourselves stuck in some negative emotions, and at that time the worst advice is to stay positive and think positive because we know this but it is hard to follow our friends and family always suggest looking at the good part ignore the bad stuff but at the time we are so high on our negative emotions that all these suggestions, advice go in vain. So let's just accept that negative and positive will be a part of our life forever it is our side to look at which side but that doesn't mean the other side is gone it will be always there, so as much as we want positivity in our life negativity will there too because without it you can't understand the value of staying positive, active, happy opposites are necessary to make you feel the importance of the other side.

As a human we possess 7 negative aspects which outgrow and have variations but the basic pillars are these 7 emotions which are 1) Anger, 2) Greed, 3) Ego, 4) Lust, 5) Envy, 6) Illusion, 7) Sloth. These 7 emotions give birth to various negative emotions but the root cause is one of them.

Following are the ways we often react to our negative emotions: -

1. Denial- here we are not ready to accept that we are feeling bad about something, we ignore that we are feeling something and divert ourselves to different things but meantime that pain bottles up and leaves a scar for a lifetime and give you trust, commitment, anger issues.
2. Withdrawal- withdrawal is when a person doesn't want to be around and participate with other people, they start pushing away the people coming to them they go into an alone zone and doubt themselves and this stage can often lead to depression, extreme loneliness, anger, misunderstandings, judgments, and distorted thinking.
3. Bullying- bullying is when the hurt person uses his power and position to threaten and ridicule other people because they are not feeling good about themselves and making someone else bad makes them feel good about themselves this stage can lead to crime.
4. Self Harm- the person harms themselves by starving, binging, cutting, and most dangerous Suicide, here the person feels that they got some control over their life this state can give you some relaxation for some time but in long term turns out to be very dangerous.
5. Harmful substance use- people start getting dependent on harmful substances like Alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, beverages, and sugar intake to make themselves feel good it is like self-harm but in a long process. Addiction to all these substances leads to damage to your brain, body, and relationships and slowly this addiction grows.

The good news is that with practice everybody can deal with their negative emotions, I know it is difficult to think sanely at some point but with conscious choices and regular practice dealing with these emotions can become a little easy and quick.

1. Pause- pause a little accept your emotions and stop taking reaction right away, 
2. Acknowledge- know your emotions and why are you feeling in such a way,
3. Think/Reflect- now you have taken some time to acknowledge your feeling, do some thinking to know about yourself and how to better the situation,
4. Help- take action to help yourself based on the thinking you did in the "Think" step.

Here comes the question of how to help, here are some on the list,

• Jot down your emotions in your journal.
• Meditate, Pray.
• Do some intense physical activity like - Running, Dancing, Workout.
• Read some good literature.
• Talk to your people, vent out your emotions and see them from a different perspective or from a third person's perspective.
• Do something nice for someone you know or for some stranger.
• Practise your hobby- Calligraphy, singing, some musical instrument, dancing, writing, reading, planting, anything creative you like.
• Do some instant breathwork to calm your mind.
• Ask for help - Ask for therapy.

If nothing seems to work give it some time, things fall in place with time you become wiser and adapt to things as it is. 

Every person has a negative and positive side, it is just our choice to choose the side and practice accordingly, don't run away from your negativity it is a part of you too. It depends on us how are we using the power of our pain people often become singers, dancers, writers, painters, and lyricists that is they become artistic they channelized their emotions into something creative, and people become dictators, maybe powerful yet alone people, criminals. So the choice is yours.

These emotions are powerful too but not as powerful as Love, Kindness, Gratitude, Hope, Serenity, Pride, Eternal Joy and many more, in the book Think like a Monk, the writer has stated a person has 18 good traits so the weight of these emotions are heavier and will always be.

I hope you liked this blog and gained some perspective. Next week I will come up with another blog about life and its topics, you can suggest them in the comment box too.

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